Sometimes we don’t notice life’s incremental changes until one day we look back and ask; “At what point did I give my power away?”
We start out with big dreams but somewhere along our path many of us lose our way settling for less and placing our dreams on hold until they melt into a distant memory and labelled by us as unimportant. What we don’t see are the subtle changes we quietly accept as our reality, not realising these incremental changes lower the ceiling of expectations for ourselves more each day.
Many women run their life on remote control, being Mum, Wife, Daughter, Sibling and in-law, unaware as time goes by they lose more and more of their own power. As parents, we give our children the very best we can afford, we spread ourselves thin between work commitments, our children and our parents. As we move forward with our responsibilities we don’t notice our pain threshold slowly rising for what we accept as our life. It is said that when we feel enough pain, we will make the necessary changes to course correct but what if our pain threshold is unconsciously lifting, at what point do we stop to notice we are losing ourselves?
I was this woman full of energy who laughed often with no doubts on my own abilities so where did I go and more importantly, when did I leave? I was Mum, Wife and Daughter working full time, running my sons between sporting events and social activities, barely catching my breathe before responsibilities moved onto assisting aging parents. I somehow came to the point of non- existence, full of doubts of who I am and what I can achieve and it wasn’t until my sons were in their late teens that I realised I had lost myself.
We get so caught up with our lives that we don’t notice the incremental changes made to our personality as we place our life on hold for others. We love our family dearly and would not have it any other way but we can give to ourselves as well as our loved ones with the right knowledge. You are important especially to your children and if you are not happy within, the dynamics of your family will not function with ease, something will give and it is this unawareness that steals from many women and their families. So many of us are unaware that the power within has been placed on hold and until you tap back into your own resources you will be like an Eagle that remains on the ground not knowing you were meant to keep on flying.
When your children grow into their own person, when you lose a parent, when you are used to being all for others except yourself, that void can hit hard and the purpose of my writing is to bring awareness to women that you can be all for everyone as long as you keep your light shining. It wasn’t until I discovered the personal development industry that I could fly again, I read one book and felt my light begin to re-ignite and so I began to immerse myself with reading one book after another, listening to audios by downloading the free content many personal development coaches have to offer.
You can take back your power and this flows on as a positive charge like a domino effect to your children, partner and extended family. There is an abundance of information on personal growth and it is when you begin this journey your world opens and the more you learn, the more you know you want to keep learning. The personal development industry is one of the fastest growing industries in the world. Corporations are now turning to personal development as a holistic approach to training their staff and people from all walks of life now implement teachings into every area of their lives.
Health and fitness is another important factor, if you are not doing anything to increase your energy, you must start, you need to spend energy to create it. Begin with walking by getting up 1/2 hour earlier or go out for a walk early evening once dinner is completed for the family, it may be a challenge to begin with but this discipline not only increases your energy levels which in turn assist you to feel more alive, it releases negative energy and sets in place a new habit for change in your life. When you undertake an exercise for 21 consecutive days, you have actually cemented in place a habit that can easily be continued.
Write out where you want to be in 2, 5 and 10 years from now, list what you would need to do to achieve this. Now, write out where you see yourself at these points of time if nothing changes, do you like what you see? Give yourself the gift of half an hour per day walking as you listen to an audio, read a book on personal growth before you go to sleep even if it’s only for 20 minutes, this journey may open up limiting beliefs you have held onto about yourself and it can be confronting to face what lies beneath but when you do, the feeling of freedom that you experience has no other comparisons. Your new mantra will be, ‘Look out world I’m back’
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